GEMINI: Gemini doesn’t have a fear of commitment, they have a fear of vulnerability and letting themselves be truly known by someone. The Twin is a master of shielding the world from their true emotions and realest self. Gemini claims to not want to be tied down or held back by anyone, and to a certain extent, this is true, but the reality is that they’re prone to “keeping things casual” because they have a fear of getting closer to someone on a deeper, more emotional level. Gemini gravitates towards people not on their level and lovers without sustenance or depth—those they subconsciously consider “safe”—so as to avoid falling in love or having something real.
Someone who could emotionally fulfill them scares them more than they care to admit, so sometimes they sabotage or push away potential suitors with whom they have an authentic connection. As self-confident and extroverted as this sign is, there’s a side to their personality that they (wrongfully) consider “dark” and “unloveable” that leaves them afraid of exposing themselves. If only they’d let themselves, Gemini would be one of the most devoted and caring partners. This sign has a huge heart overflowing with love to give.
SCORPIO: Scorpio’s biggest desires are also their biggest fears: profound emotional intimacy and complete discovery. This zodiac sign has also been hurt significantly in the past, and it has made them put up an armor. Scorpio has allowed their heart to callous over to the point of being impenetrable. Each time they’ve given their all in love and in return been left heartbroken has made them less susceptible to wanting to open up and commit. Scorpio believes everyone is out to hurt them, so they avoid opening up themselves to anyone at all costs.
They turn to casual relationships and sex to fill the void left inside them, all the while yearning for the real thing. Those born under this sign are their own worst enemies when it comes to finding the passionate love they so deeply crave. Sometimes Scorpio allows themselves to get close to someone, only to wind up sabotaging the connection because they keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. Scorpio has so much love to give that they could find someone worthy of it if only they would allow themselves to face their past emotional wounds, to trust, and to let go of control.
Aquarius: hates the idea of a committed and monogamous relationship, and to some extent it is associated with the value they place on their freedom and their hesitation to adhere to convention. However, on a deep level, it also has to do with their fear of discovery, of feeling exposed, and emotional openness. Aquarius doesn’t deal well with the emotional realm—it makes them uncomfortable to some degree, though not for the reasons you’d think.
They come off as cool and detached and are often mistaken for being distant and aloof, but Aquarius feels strongly on a deep level. They just don’t know how to handle intense emotions or how to express them. Aquarius feels safer when they remain in control of their feelings, not when their feelings control them. This zodiac sign is also afraid of being hurt. It’s for these reasons that they prefer casual dating and unserious relationships. The truth, however, is that they do desire something more—something real, something deeper. Rarely can they even admit it to themselves. They know the reason they often feel so restless is because they deny themselves the opportunity to feel emotionally fulfilled.